Nostaligia and My Hometown

Kay and I were shopping yesterday at the mall and passed by the sheets and towels section. There, as big as all get out, were Cannon sheets and towels.

They were originally manufactured in the town in grew up in, which was named for the company - Kannapolis, NC. While in college, "I served my time," and worked in Cannon Mills for 3 years. In the early 90's they closed down all plants (I forget how many) and moved overseas putting close to 20,000 people out of work and decimating the town that is only now recovering.

On the back of the sheets it was printed "Made in China." I have no beef with buying foreign made products; I do all the time. In truth, there is no such thing in the global economy as an "American made product." Everything is impacted worldwide by the technology to manufacture it, the supplies, the infrastructure, something. But seeing those textile products and realizing the impact that move made upon my entire family was a little disconcerting. That is true even though I moved away in 1976, completed my education elsewhere in three other institutions, have spent my entire career and lived in three other states since then.

"You can take the boy out of the country," so the saying goes. It is true, I have always kept close tabs on what takes place there and look forward to my visits. Kannapolis will always be a part of me and who I am. Maybe when I die, I will have my ashes slung around the downtown "Idiot Circle where I and my idiot friend spent many a Friday and Saturday eveninng.

Elections 2016

I love that we have elections. I love the opportunity we have to vote for representatives in this country, some of whom actually turn out to be leaders. I have seldom missed an opportunity to exercise that voting privilege since I was 18, even when I had to hold my nose while I voted. If you study our nation's history, you will see that "election season" has always been, shall we say, less than civil. Sometimes in the 1800's it was ugly and downright mean in ways that far surpass what we see in our era of attacking another person while remaining politically correct in our word choice.

That being said, I really dislike the 6 solid months of posturing by men/women of power seeking the one thing that men/women of power have always sought . . . more power. Issues are raised and ignored, on pretenses quite often, when in reality most often it appears it just about getting elected.

In an attempt to view this from a theological perspective, I pose the following question for personal pondering: Are we seeing ourselves played out before our eyes? Are we simultaneously seeing both the image of God that is in all of humanity and the depravity of humanity that comes from what sin has done to all of us displayed right before our eyes in a very public manner?

Resurrection Says

Resurrection says the old way is not the way it has to be any longer.

Where do you doubt today?

• Is it in the search for a job? Have you sent out so many resumes that the postal service is thinking of setting up a branch office in your house? Are you starting to give up and are starting to doubt that God is able? I disagree, because I believer in resurrection.
• Are the financial issues in your home so bad that you are totally embarrassed to let anyone know and you have come to the point where you just do not believe God cares either. You now think there is no hope. I say there is hope, because I believe in resurrection.
• Is there a health related issue – and everyone knows a miracle is the only way it will be come out right? Maybe you have given up all hope. I again say there is hope, because I believe in resurrection.
• Do you have a child that is in trouble and you are growing weary of asking God to redeem the situation? You now believe that you are going to live your life with a prodigal child. I say do not give up hope, because I believe in resurrection. The prodigal did return.
• Is there a relational issue in your life that is in need of healing – and you doubt God can handle it? Maybe it is with a family member, or a co-worker, or a neighbor. Maybe your marriage is on the rocks and you are ready to throw in the towel. I say, “Do not do it!” Relationships can be healed. Because I believe in resurrection.
• Maybe you have been waiting for God to send you a mate or a child and you now are ready to not only give up on that, but you are ready to give up on God caring about it? I say, do not give up, because I believe in resurrection.
• Have you finally come to the point where you need to make a decision regarding Jesus? Is it possible that you should make Easter 2016 the day you placed faith in Jesus? I say do it, because I believe in resurrection.

Resurrection means the old way of doing things is no more!

As one pastor says, “On that Sunday morning, it is as if Jesus says, ‘HA! You didn’t see that one coming did you?!’”

Resurrection says churches do not have to be the way they were. You can change. You do not have to do exact same things the same way. Just because you did this before you not have to do it again. There is hope to move on and have a future.

Resurrection says, if death has been conquered, then what other old way of doing things needs to be conquered. What else has been taking place that need no longer take place? What other issue in your life is in such disarray that you no longer believe it can be repaired. Resurrection says, “You are wrong! Anything is possible now!”

Resurrection says, “If I can rise from the dead, I can handle whatever it is you are dealing with. If I can conquer death, I can take care of your problem!”

Changes

My how things change.

My how changes affect how you view life  . . . and God.

My how influences you permit in your life affect your view of life . . . and God.

My how changes and growth are synonymous.

My how growth in one person can be viewed as heretical in another.

My how things change.

10 Prayers for the New Year

From Rabbi Moffic

1. Looking Backward and Forward: The name January comes from the Roman god "Janus." He had two faces so he could look forward and backward at the same time. Eternal God, help us to know this truth. We can look back, and in so doing, we can help create the way forward. The past need not hold us back. It can lead us ahead.

2. Unwrap the Gift: Eternal God, You gave us the greatest gift: the gift of life. In the coming year, help us use it wisely. May we grow in generosity, kindness and forgiveness, hope, faith and love. Amen.

3. Beginnings are blessings: Eternal God, bless this new beginning with an extra spirit of your strength, so that we may turn our days into blessings of Your name. Amen.

4. Possibilities: To begin again is not a dream. It is an everlasting possibility. God, help us to grab hold of it and make it real in the coming year. Amen

5. The Book of Life: A new year is a new page in the book of our lives. May we write with color, wisdom and humility. And may your grace fall upon it consistently and unceasingly. Amen

6. Waiting for Us: The good we missed last year waits for us still. Eternal God, give us the eyes to see it, the ears to hear and the heart to find it. Amen

7. Strength: God, we do not ask for a life of ease and comfort. We simply ask to be uncomplaining and unafraid. May you give us that strength for the New Year.

8. The Possibility for Change: The Hebrew word for "year" also means "change." Change is a possibility for each us. May we embrace that possibility for change within ourselves, change within our families, change within our communities, and change within our world.

9. Change is inevitable: Growth is not. It depends on our will, our hopes, our dreams. And it rests on Your Grace. Give us an extra portion of it, so that we may fill the New Year with your Presence. Amen

10. Presence: The greatest gift we can give to others and You can give to us, Oh God, is Presence. May we be present for others during the coming year, and may You bless us with Your presence at every moment. Amen.

Elbow Room for God

Many years ago Oswald Chambers said to a group of students in a college chapel service: “We have to learn to make room for God -- to give God “elbow room.” Yes, we calculate and estimate, and say that this and that will happen, and we forget to make room for God to come as he chooses. Expect him to come, but do not expect him only in a certain way. At any moment he may break in. Always be in a state of expectancy, and leave room for God to come as he likes.

How would you change your prayer if you gave God “elbow room?”

Axiom #14: Osmosis

There are certain things we learned in school that for one reason or another, just stick with you. Quite often there is no rhyme or reason as to why they stuck so plainly, they just did. For me, one of those items is the principle called “osmosis.” I imagine most of you recall it. In brief it states that a substance will always move from a place of greater concentration to a place of lesser concentration. My chemist friends can give the exact reasoning, but the principle is true whether or not an individual understands why it works.

I have seen that leadership works in a similar way. If there is void in leadership in an organization or a group, something will always fill that void. This void could be created by a leader’s departure or by a leader’s abandonment of leading, but the void will not remain a void for long. If the concentration of leadership is low, some leader(s) will move to fill that void coming from the place where there is more leadership.

In almost every case, you will NOT like what moves to fill that void. Seldom does a good leader move into a void created by the leader in place not fulfilling their responsibilities. I have seen it occur where a good leader assumes the leadership of the situation, but more often than not it seems to me that a bad leader will take over that role if the situation is left to its own devices.

That leads to the obvious fact; you should never leave an organization or group without a leader in place. If a group you have responsibility for has a leader resign, take steps quickly to determine who you want in that place, even if it is an interim leader while you locate the correct permanent one. If you want your vision to be carried out, you simply do not want to allow leadership to rise on its own. Have a hand it determining who is in that position. 

Axiom #13: Higher the Rung – Greater the Influence

Leadership is a strange thing. While we can often see where bad leadership has caused an organization to take downward trajectory, it is often not readily apparent the exact cause and nature of that downward path. I would venture to say that more often than not, if an analysis of an organization that has moved toward disarray is taken, you will find  that the root cause began long before the actual demise was visible to those on the outside, and perhaps to most on the inside.

Having spent time watching organizations and their leaders take specific directions over the years, there is a very real fact that, from my perspective, will always be true. This is true for CEOs, Pastors, Boards and any manner of leadership.

When you evaluate those at the top of any organization, one of the first things noticeable is that the when you are higher in an organization’s structure, the longer it takes for the effects of your bad decisions to be become apparent. The second thing is the impact of those bad decisions is far greater. Finally, you will notice that the correcting the effects of those bad decisions takes far longer, if they can be corrected at all. In fact, some decisions at the top can be irreversible and therefore devastating to the organization.

Let’s take an example here. Before I do so, let me state that with the illustration I am about to use, I am asking you not to read value judgements on the positions in question. I valued every person’s contribution to their locale. I am simply observing cause and effect.

As I stated earlier, the higher you are in an organization the longer it takes for the impact to be noticed, the greater the impact and the longer it takes to correct it. If you are a custodian for a company, a church, or any other organization, and you do not complete your tasks, it is evident almost immediately. Clearly within just a day or so, everyone will notice that the rubbish is not cleared, the bathrooms are not cleaned and stocked, and the overall place is getting dirty. The effect is visible quite easily. While this task is indeed important, it will not take the organization down, and you can correct it in fairly short order.

This is not true if you are the leader of the organization. In fact, I would argue that almost always in all three comparatives the opposite is true. If a CEO or some other senior leader makes a bad decision in hiring, or vision, or values, or structure, it probably is readily noticed by only a few, if any at all. The effects of those decisions, however can take an organization down and if you are in a position to seek to correct them, it can take a tremendous amount of time, energy, and resources. All of this is the opposite of the person lower on the organizational chart. In fact, those bad decisions at the top can prove devastating to those lower in the organization. The effects can potentially be even worse the lower down the organizational chart you go. This makes the effects to be “people impacting” on a far greater level than immediate issues at other levels in the organization.

Maybe this is partly why James wrote, “Not many of you should become teachers, my fellow believers, because you know that we who teach will be judged more strictly.”  wrote, (James 3:1) It is not necessarily that teachers (read leaders for the sake of this discussion) are more important, but if you are a teacher (leader) you have a far greater influence. You words become the words of your students. Your ideas become the ideas of those you lead. Your methods become the methods of those who follow you. You plans become the plans of those who follow your lead. Your mistakes become the mistakes of those whom they impact.

Are you in a position of leadership? Do not take it lightly. You hold the lives (figuratively) of those whom you lead in your hands. Think over, pray over, and ask for assistance with, your decisions while they are still in your mind, before they become reality. Once they are into the world of reality, they effects can be far reaching, hard to notice and at times almost impossible to correct.

Musings on Leadership

Leadership is one of the areas that I have spent a great amount of time studying. I have read on the subject, spoken on the subject, written on it,and gone to numerous conferences and teachings on it. It was one of the items that Jesus, and later Peter, John and Paul would write on. It has quite a variety of aspects of the subject matter. They range from leading, to teaching leaders, to growing leaders.

A few years back, I began a series of posts on leadership that tried to boil them down into pithy statements that I would then unpack. It is along the lines of Bill Hybels book on Leadership Axioms. While talking about this to a friend, he challenged me to write down some of the leadership axioms I had been talking about for some time. I began writing those axioms then, and intend to write on this topic for a few more posts. You can go to the beginning here and read Axioms 1 – 12.

Maybe I will continue for a while. Maybe I will write some, then take another break. We will see how this goes in the upcoming days and weeks. Next will be Axiom #13, Higher the Rung – Greater the Influence.

When the Ashley Madison Scandal Causes an Inward Look

Great view of the current scandal of Ashley Madison here.

Internal Bleeding

The other week I was doing some remodeling work on our home. Included in the carpentry, painting, installing a drop ceiling, sub-flooring and laminate flooring was some electrical wiring. (Do not be overly impressed, my electrical skills drop off quickly under scrutiny.) This particular project required me cut and splice wiring as I installed new electrical outlets in our new pantry. As I was cutting the wires I noticed that the blade on my razor knife was dull and needed replacing. I took care of that and was eager to get back at the job with the tools in proper working order.

I climbed the ladder and began cutting and splicing numerous wires in some very tight locations. It had me in some odd contortions of my body atop the step ladder.

Don’t get ahead of me here.

While making one cut, the knife slipped after hitting a stud and sliced into the finger on my left hand laying it open about 1-1/4”. It was one of those cuts where you look at it and for a split  second think to yourself, “Oh man, I just cut myself!” (or something like that.) before the blood begins to gush out. Now I am a bit strange when it comes to cuts and stiches. I simply do not go get myself sewn up when I should. I have at least 4-5 scars on my body where I have been cut over the years and did not go to a doctor to have it looked at. I keep my tetanus up to date, so there is no issue there. I am not afraid of needles or anything; I donate blood every eight weeks and have for 40 years. It is just . . . well . . . I do not know what it is. I think the only explanation is that I am a male. Either that or I am just stupid. Either works.

All of that to say, I did not go to the doctor. I went upstairs, my wife Kay poured alcohol over it, put some anti-bacterial ointment on a bandage, wrapped me up, pulling the wound tightly together, and back to work I went to complete the job. (Hey! Kay was a nurse for 20 years. That counts for something.)

It is funny though, as I was working and thinking about the few seconds before I bleed and the many seconds afterward where I was bleeding, I began to think about people and their internal pain. How many folks do you pass daily who are bleeding? I do not mean physically, I mean they are in deep hurt over something in life that has scarred them. They were hurt deeply and the blood still seeps from the wound. They tell you about it, and it provides some relief, but it will take some time for the wound to heal, just as the cut on my finger took weeks to heal. We should be glad they are aware of the cut and the need to heal. Holidays often cause some folks to recall cuts, be it Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, Thanksgiving, Christmas or whatever. It serves as a reminder that I am bleeding and have not healed.

Then there are others. Some people are bleeding, but are unaware of it. Bleeding internally. If you ask any physician they will most likely tell you that internal bleeding is the most dangerous. It is because you are unaware that your life source is seeping from your veins into places in your body it was never meant to be. If this goes unchecked, depending upon the severity, you could bleed to death and never know what was wrong. At least external cuts, even bad ones, are visible and show there is a need for assistance.

Again, how many people do you pass daily who may be bleeding internally. Something horrible may have been done to them, but they will not admit it. Perhaps they are unaware. They are hiding it. It is internal bleeding. It is taking their life from them as it were and they are not aware it is happening because of denial or fear to face the issue, or any number of things.

Perhaps if you are a woman, when you were younger you were raped. Perhaps it was on a date. You were pressured by someone and you gave in but you were saying “No,” and it was ignored. Others have convinced you it was no big deal, but you were raped, plain and simple, and it silently affects you to this day. You may not admit it, but it is affecting your intimate relationships. It is affecting them deeply. You are bleeding internally.

Maybe when you were a child you were abused. You may have been physically or emotionally or intellectually abused.  Someone with power over you used that power in a way that hurt you deeply. It may have been that you were sexually molested. Those scars do not go away without time to process them and allow them to heal. If you do not address the violence, admit that the other person was indeed wrong, and allow yourself to heal you will continue to bleed internally affecting your self-image, your sexuality, and who can tell where all the damage will go. Your relationships will all suffer until you address the source of the bleeding.

Did someone betray you? They made promises to you and broke them. It hurt you. It hurt you deeply. It has caused you to bleed internally. No one can see it. They may have gotten off scott free as it were. But the hurt you feel is relentless. Have you looked at what happened and made a decision to not let it hold you back from what you desire any longer?

Were you neglected love and affection due you from someone as a child or as an adult? We all have those needs. When we do not receive them it can cause us to seek to fill that need in unhealthy ways. Isn’t it time to admit there is bleeding taking place and get help addressing it?

One more. Were you abused by someone spiritually? Someone in a position of spiritual power used that power, perhaps even sincerely, but they have laid such a guilt trip on you that your relationship with God is affected. It is often in the name of godliness or conviction or some other spiritual platitude. Has it corrupted your view of God? Has it made you see God as your enemy instead of a loving heavenly parent whose desire really is for your best and seeks to welcome you, love you, guide you and accept you? The bleeding internally from this can cause issues that are almost impossible to diagnose, unless you are honest with yourself and a close trusted person who can help you admit what took place.

I could go on, but you get the picture. How many of us are bleeding internally even now and are afraid or unwilling to admit it?

Maybe it is finally time to do so.

Prayer that Hits Home

I saw this on a friend's site. I am not sure where it originated from, but it sure hits home on many levels.

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Dear Lord,

Help me to relax about insignificant details, beginning tomorrow at 7:41:23 a.m. EST.

Help me to consider people’s feelings, even if most of them are hypersensitive.

Help me to take responsibility for the consequences of my actions, even though they’re usually not my fault.

Help me to not try to run everything – but, if you need some help, please feel free to ask me.

Help me to be more laid back, and help me to do it exactly right.

Help me to take things more seriously, especially laughter, parties, and dancing.

Give me patience, and I mean right now!

Help me not be a perfectionist. (Did I spell that correctly?) Help me to finish everything I sta

Help me to keep my mind on one thing … oh, look, a bird … at a time.

Help me to do only what I can, and trust you for the rest. And would you mind putting that in writing?

Keep me open to others’ ideas, misguided though they may be.

Help me follow established procedures. Hey, wait … this is wrong …

Help me slow down andnotrushthroughwhatido.

Thank you, Lord.

Amen

On to Bethlehem

As I have stated often, there are a lot of options at Advent/Christmas musically. I have at times been spoken to through a wide variety of songs. This year the song that is really speaking to me is On to Bethlehem. It was recorded in about 1999 by Bill Mallonee and the Vigilantes of Love. The mellow sound and the introspective lyrics are how I am experiencing this season. If you let it, I believe God can speak to you and provide comfort as well.

"So tell me, what is your little secret? What's on your blister soul? What is that one little secret? The one that has taken its toll?" "God wrapped himself in human skin, for those who want to touch."

Below I have pasted the lyrics and and a link to the version I am listening to recorded by the worship band at the church where I served 14 years ago. This was done during our New Noel Christmas production.

If you go HERE you can listen to the version I am referencing along with a list of the musicians involved.

On To Bethlehem

       Bill Malonee and VOL

So I'm at this wheel
It's 3 a.m.
Waiting for the caffeine to come around
Life rears its ugly head again
They say, "Your radio's cool, and retail's way down"
And I'd like to say I'm faithful to the task at hand
Speaking Gospel to a handful and others with their list of demands

It's cold this year, and I'm late on my dues
It's cold in here
Ah, but that's nothing new
My heart's electric with Your love again
So it's on to Bethlehem

You might surmise that I ran there, but I really only crept
Lead me to the place where love runs wild and then it dogs your every step
You know how fickle my heart is and prone to wander, my Lord
Yeah, we talk, but it's at arm's length
Always got one eye on the door

God wraps Himself up in human skin for those who want to touch
And God let them drive the nails in for those of us who know way too much
And You come bearing all our burdens and take Your lovers for a ride
We stayed holed up in our cages fashioned by our own design

So tell me, what is your secret?
What's on your blister soul?
What is that one little secret?
You know, the one that has taken its toll
'Cos Daddy's banging on your gate again
Yeah, He won't leave you alone
Got a whole lot of dry, warm rooms in the finest of homes

Meeting Me - An Advent Poem #3

Meeting Me

Holy Child, why is it that you would

leave heaven’s glory

to lie

in a feeding trough?

Why would you

surrender unlimited power

to become

the most helpless of beings?

What was your goal?

Why did you come?

Why are you here?

You will not remain this way.

You will grow

first into a boy, and finally into a man.

You will die

upon a cross for my sin . . . you will die.

You will rise

From a death that should have been mine.

Why would you choose to meet me here?

Is it because of my need?

Is it because of your love?

Is it because . . .

Holy Child. You will not remain this way.

But

This is the path that leads to your goal

and humanity’s gain.

That is why you came.

That is why we bow.

That is why we worship You.

That is why we call you Savior.

That is why.

How Abounding - An Advent Poem #2

How Abounding

How deep is the sin

            that runs into my very being?

            It stares back when I look at my reflection.

            It is a part of my nature.

            I am left with no hope of escaping it clutches

                        unless God delivers me.

Is that what this is about?

How amazing is the grace of God

            that extends beyond the grasp of my sin?

It sees I am

 unworthy of this honor.

I am totally unable to undertake this task alone.

This grace makes me

worthy . . .

and available. . .  for God’s purposes.

Perhaps THAT is what this is all about?

How abounding is the voice of God

that calls me

to something other than myself?

This is something I could never have imagined

No human can fully understand this

            or believe it

. . . without His assistance?

Maybe that is just the point

            it is his aid of which I am in need.

It is that same aid of which we all are in need.

            And soon I may hold that very aid in my arms.

How abounding. How abounding indeed.

Persons - An Advent Poem #1

Persons

So many faces

Each one different

beautiful in its own way

Do they realize how important everyone is?

So many minds

Each one thinking different thoughts

bowing to their former self

Have they truly comprehended the significance of this?

So many expectations

Each one coming from a personal bias

bringing a different vantage point to this experience.

Are they willing to see what is actually taking place?

So many viewpoints

Each one with a slant all it own.

bending this night into their own experience. 

How will I get them to allow my Father to work?

So many persons

Each one unique, and loved from above

bonding with a baby they cannot comprehend.

How long before they understand?

So many needs

Each one greater than the one before

becoming larger as the night passes.

Will they allow me to point them to the true answer?

They are all looking at me.

Pain in their heart.

Expectation is in their face.

Hope is in their voice.

Modern Day Puritanism

Ours is a strange time to be alive. We talk outwardly on being tolerant. However, we all have seen that quite often the most intolerant are those who preach tolerance. We see it in individuals quite often, but it shows up in odd ways collectively as an American culture. Here is what I am referring to.

You will often hear people in places of prominence talk about believing in giving individuals a second chance. If pressed individually and pressed further on their own failings, most would indeed fall under that umbrella. Most of us less prominent folks would also fall into that camp.

Here is where it appears to be breaking down.

Primarily, through the use of social media we have become a nation that desires instant punishment. It goes from A-Rod, to Jerry Sandusky, to Donald Sterling, to Danny Ferry, to the mayor of Toronto, to Tony Stewart, to Joe Paterno, to Governor Christi, to Ray Rice or Adrian Peterson, to the police in Missouri, to any number of politicians, to the latest public figure who we think is guilty of a crime. Now, I am not saying that some of the individuals listed above are not guilty. Some indeed are.Others however have been exonerated or never proven at fault or the case is still under investigation.

In actuality it does not seem to matter if the person IS guilty or not. We have judged them guilty based upon our limited evidence and we then want to see them punished. We want to see them punished quickly and here is the rub . . . we want to see them punished publicly. It appears to me that we, as a culture, are acting in eerily similar fashion to the Puritans of a few hundred years ago who punished folks in the most public of settings available to them in that day Where the extreme Puritans put folks into stocks and publicly mocked and otherwise humiliated them, we do it now via the Internet. We assassinate their character. Quite often, just as the legalistic wing of the Puritans did, we even resort to attacking their family. With our words and posts we "convict" them quickly and viciously and without regard as to whether we may end up being wrong.

Just as tolerance goes away when it is not our belief we are seeking tolerance for, it seems it is no longer innocent until proven guilty. We have become guilty until proven innocent on many fronts. We see ourselves as having moved so much beyond the folks of a few hundred years ago, yet here we are acting in much the same way. I am not in favor of being soft on criminal acts of any sort, but we must exercise care not to violate the old "log and splinter" principle while the facts play out.

Donating Blood and Fatherhood

Last Friday I made my regularly scheduled trek that I take each 8 weeks to donate blood. This time, I talked to Kay and took Gavin with me. (I so wish I had done this with my three, now adult, children.) I wanted him to understand what I did and then help him to understand a bit why I do it.

Donating blood is something I learned from my father. For all his shortcomings due to his addictions, I saw him more than once give blood. I remember him telling me “Someone needs this blood and I can give it to them.” It made an impression upon me to the point that I still recall it. I tried to think of how much I have given in the nearly 40 years I have been donating blood. While I have not always been at the 8-week mark, I have been regular in my donating and I assume I am in the 15 – 20 gallon range of donating blood totally all three states where I have lived.

Since they were not terribly busy, the ladies at the donor center allowed Gavin to go back and watch the process for which I was grateful. He has had blood drawn on numerous occasions due to his growth hormone issues, but never in this volume and he was amazed, especially at the size of the needle, which I no longer notice.

As we left he and I had some dialogue about it. I mentioned to him that when Kay was in her cancer treatments four years ago she had blood transfusion on at least two occasions and received a total of four units I think. I told Gavin, I have always given to help others, but now whenever I give, I am giving in gratitude for the individuals who gave blood that was given to my wife. He said, “Grandma had someone else’s blood put in her?!” I told him that is exactly how it works and explained a bit of the science behind it (well as much as I understand!)

Here is my point, being a father is about teaching on so many levels. I firmly believe in the verbal, intellectual and spiritual side of it, but I also believe my role as the father in Gavin’s life is to teach him about his responsibility to other human beings and their care. Giving blood is just one small way I can model just that, the way my Dad (unknowingly) did for me.

Strength Based Approaches

Anyone who has been around me longer than 30 minutes knows that I am all about the Strength-Based approach as stressed by Gallup and Marcus Buckingham specifically. It infiltrates everything I do. I had a wonderful discussion with an individual a few weeks back regarding this.

I was at my grandson Gavin's 5th grade end of the year outing at a local amusement park. As we were leaving I was chatting with one of the three teachers in his team. Now, Gavin likes all three of his teachers, but really liked this particular one. I had thought perhaps it had something to do with the fact that this teacher was male. I was so wrong.

As that teacher and I walked to the final departure location at the end of the day, we were chatting about how Gavin liked him and blossomed in his classes. The teacher then said something like this:

"I believe every child has a strength. My goal is to discover what that strength is and then play to that. Gavin loves details and likes for things to be exact and logical. If they do not make sense, he cannot buy it. He wants facts to support what you are saying."

He could not have hit the nail on the head  better. Gavin is so much that way, that at night you cannot say, "Gavin it is 9:30 . . . bed time." He will reply, "It is not 9:30, it is 9:26."

I began to talk to this teacher about Marcus Buckingham and the strength-based approach. I learned he teacher had never heard of it. He simply had noticed that kids respond when you play to their strengths. As I talked about how we do not grow our weaknesses, we simply have to manage around them and not let them pull us down, he became more and more interested.

Now to us, as a parent or grandparent or whatever interaction you have with others, do you seek to recognize their strengths and play to them? If not, you are missing a golden opportunity. It is something I do in leadership capacities and folks always respond. If you have never checked out this leadership / parenting / friendship / co-worker / colleague tool, I encourage you to do so at Marcus Buckingham's Site here and others. Read the book Now Discover Your Strengths, (and his Buckingham's others as well) take the inventory, grow yourself and help others!!

God's Economy and the US Ecomony

This morning I read about the following store closings in an article lamenting our lack of real economic growth.

• Staples - 225 stores by 2015
• Radio Shack - 1,100 stores
• Albertsons  - 26 stores
• Abercrombie & Fitch - undisclosed in 2015
• Gilly Hicks - 20 stores
• Barnes & Nobles - 218 stores
• J.C. Penney - 33 stores
• Toys R Us – 100 stores.
• Sweetbay Supermarket – 17 stores
• Loehmann’s  - shut down
• Sears / Kmart - 500 stores
• Quiznos - filed for bankruptcy
• Sbarro – 155 locations
• Ruby Tuesday - 30 restaurants
• Red Lobster selling unknown number of stores
• Ralph’s – 15 supermarkets
• Safeway - closed 72 Dominick’s grocery stores

I was reminded:

• God is not dependent upon the US economy.
• God is not surprised by any of this.
• God still meets our NEEDS just as he has always has.
• There is not a sparrow that falls that God does not notice.
• God still loves each of us more than we could imagine.